Have you been in a conflict? Have you been in an argument? Of course you have. There is conflict at every turn and nothing should change this. Why would I say that nothing should change it? Because it’s meant to be there. You see we’re stuck to a singular perception. In this we are inclined to view one dynamic. We become bias over time to our own personal views. If left unopposed for too long, the very thought of a conflicting thought or idea can be a technical assault on someone.
The reality of conflict is the same reality that it already exists within your mind. We often think it’s just people’s varied opinions coming in direct opposition to the other. However, in each of their minds is the conflict as well. Everyone has war raging in their minds. It’s just most the time their own personal biases wins. The mind is continually trying to pursue a feed of information and flowing it to the brain. The brain sorts information. The first two categories of information are split, logical and emotional. The data presents in both hemispheres but much of what we experience is either or. That is the first conflict of our mind.
What qualifies to which, and what side is your bias? That is a determining factor in what you perceive in the information received. For instance if we had Jamie hears Tom say, “Hi, Jamie!” she takes this under two perspectives initially. One, she uses logic to identify the tones, the highlights of the statement, body language and other information relevant to come to a conclusion of how this message is actually being presented. Logically rationalizing whether he is actually excited, hitting on her, or otherwise.
The second is the feelings behind everything. His emotional state, her emotional state, and a kind of extra-sensory perception of the environment and how it feels. Is it casual, a dark and foreboding location, maybe it’s in a group atmosphere. However this is again making sense of both logical and emotional states of both the environment, Jamie, and Tom. This also can have continual analysis depending on a variety of other conditions.
The fact is that the brain can function on both the emotional and logical. When they’re in alignment then the mind can be very powerful. However, most the time people are letting their mind fall where it does, they don’t recognize their own biases and continue to find themselves in repetitious cycles. If they refuse to acknowledge not only the privileges they’ve received, but their own short-comings, than their mind won’t allow for conflict outside. It’s not until we know ourselves can we move forward.
The fact that your brain is quite literally hardwired to be in conflict. The truth is that you stand at the decision. You get to decide which information is pertinent. You decide which side of your mind is right, or wrong, or otherwise. You get to decide what you will act on and do. Thoughts are not anything, until given action. These are your choices. You get the option to choose which part of the brain you’re listening to. If you don’t believe you have another side, than you’re likely been so ingrained into believing only one point of view for so long you’ve forgotten there is even other information.
For instance if a pessimist lives as a pessimist for too long, they have no real ability to see an optimistic point of view. They have no way of suddenly believing in the optimistic views, or possibilities. They continue to perceive a negative outcome and so their world and perception of it becomes a negative point of view. The longer maintained in this, the more the cycles will continue. The more this continues the harder it comes to break. The fact is their personal views of their own mind leaned toward negativeness, and poor outlooks.
While life offers both the white view, and the black view in a grey reality. The world is not white, or black, it’s shades of grey. That is the reality of the world, our perception of the world is up to our own choices. Our brain giving us both sides of the arguments when asked. It’s actually unbiased to information, you decide how it’s processed. So when you ponder your next move, and you’re considering the pros and cons of the choices. Remember your brain is telling you the sides, sometimes the fact that someone outside you can offer insight you didn’t think about only proves all the more there is other thoughts, other opposition.
The opposition isn’t meant to be conflicting but to coordinate, to compromise and find new solutions to situations. This is the most helpful part of conflicting views. That when emotion and logic are processed, cooperation and communication offers alternative solutions, and through compromise we can find the most amicable and well formulated response. This is what conflict can do if given the opportunity. So we must listen to an alternate view. We must understand the reasoning and beliefs, we must understand that there is many other sides. This is just the nature of conflict. It will always exist.