Have you understood that your future is unwritten, malleable, controllable? Yet we can have such a dread for it and what uncertainty it has in store. Part of that is because of those particular “curve-balls” that life likes to peg us with. However is it just fear of the unknown, or is it the uncertain future that we can write ourselves?
Simple answer it’s the unknown. A rule for me is, I will survive everything, until one day I don’t. It’s a simple answer, it is honest, and keeps it in check. Despite my desires not to have the future throw those damn “curve-balls”. Despite my desire not to be troubled with major events, and possible bad outcomes of choices, that is the particular part of life everyone tries to avoid. However, it’s life, and you can not have that control, nor should you.
The idea of even the times we get kicked while down, has been hard and deeply wounding times. They sit there in a pit of our mind reminding us of the hardships we faced, and if you’re looking at them with the wrong perspective they will eat away at you of what you possibly could’ve done different. Truth, you can’t change the past. You instead need to understand the hardships you’ve faced are not weakness, nor are they the knife cutting you again. They are reminders of what you can overcome. They are the signposts of how far you’ve traveled. The more you pass, the more significant the sign, the further you’ve traveled.
Look at a long rich history of those moments, and know that person is stronger than one who has not experienced nearly as many. What is the light without the dark? It’s a value creator as well, only to suffice as a value of any hardship past or future are going to make me appreciate those good times much more. So I can let go of that fear for the possible bad events of an uncertain future. There is nothing I won’t survive, until I don’t. Regardless, I will move forward.
Maybe in the uncertain future it’s just questionable at where you will go? Who will you be? Those are fair questions aren’t they? No. Because you can’t dictate what you will find in the future, you can plan and predict but life will always happen while you make other plans. You can try to play a little “what-if game” and revolve on many possibilities, or even narrow them down to probabilities. What is probable? That is a laugh, as again there will always be a blind spot life will come at you. Who will you be? That has been up to you from the moment you were consciously aware of your individuality. You have defined who you will be from that moment on to now.
You have chosen how you react to the “Stimuli” whether the positive or negative, or the outcome being positive or negative. You made choices that made you the current person reading these words, and you will continue to make the choice of who you are. There is no difference in the uncertain future. You must decide before hand who you will be and that is what you will find yourself as in that future. Do not fret as you dictate who you will become through your own choices.
So you see, no matter what your future is holding in store for you, let go. You don’t have to hold on to the reigns so tightly, relax. You can always move forward with direction. You just don’t get to say what’s ahead. So enjoy the ride, take a breath and know that the world is honestly quite amazing when we look at the intricate details and how it all flows together toward that very uncertain future. However you can also take with you, you will survive everything, until one day you don’t.